Don’t get me wrong – I am not implying that ADC’s (After Death Communication, as they are known to people who research them) are a get-out-of-jail-free card from the universal experience of bereavement. Far from it. The constant sense of presence and energy did not last forever – it lasted for about two weeks. But it did get me through series of experiences I never thought I would be able to face, the primary one being the funeral.
In light of the signs of continued presence we all felt the funeral seemed very unreal. It didn’t help that she didn’t look anything like herself. We didn’t tell the funeral director that she always wore her hair up and with it down she looked like a total stranger. Even after he changed it, she still didn’t look like herself. I managed to play harp at the funeral itself. I never though I would have been able to pull this off! I remember once, a year or so before any of this happened, my dad got sick and went into the hospital. Mom was convinced he was going to die any day. This was before we realized this was coming from an irrational fear inside of her and so we believed her. She told me about this on my way to church one morning when I was scheduled to play at the 11:00AM service. She got me so upset I couldn’t play one note. Yet during a time when I should have been even MORE upset, I played the entire gig effortlessly.
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